Just a few weeks before her tragic death on Monday at her Kent home in England, Peaches Geldof, 25, shared her thoughts on marriage and kids — and some of the struggles she was facing — in an interview for the U.K.'s Mother & Baby magazine.
Bob Geldof's daughter, 25, had signed on to be a new columnist, offering her views on parenting and not the partying she had been known for before the births of her two sons, Astala, who turns 2 this month, and Phaedra, who will be 1 this month.
"Yes, like all mums, Peaches can talk pretty much non-stop about motherhood," writes Claire Irvin, the editor who gave her the gig.
Peaches admits in the piece that she didn't plan her two boys to be so close in age – she just "didn't realize" you could get pregnant while breastfeeding. She talks of how social media helped her after she became a mother, that Instagram helped her find "new mum friends." And she mentions how she had embraced "attachment parenting."
After her parents, rocker Geldof and Paula Yates, divorced in 1996, Peaches says she and her three sisters "had a really unstable upbringing. It was probably my really early years, where I was attachment parented, that saved me from losing it." (Yates died of a heroin overdose in 2000.)
She says the technique is about fostering a secure attachment and bond with family members. That's partly why Peaches and her husband musician, Tom Cohen, moved to be closer to his parents. Tom's mother, Sue, helps watch the children when Peaches and Tom are working.
"If I didn't have Sue to help me out, it might have been too much," Peaches says. "There's been times I've cried with exhaustion, when they're both screaming, and I've just had to sit down, breathe and be like, 'This is hard.' You have no time for yourself, even on the toilet – you have a baby sitting on your lap while you're having a poo, eating a sandwich at the same time. That's what being a mum is. It's not easy. It can be stressful, but it's the most rewarding thing you will do."
She goes on to say that she and Tom had been through "a difficult time in their marriage" when Phaedra arrived because Tom's band S.C.U.M had split just on the verge of a big signing.
But she says, "Since I've had the boys, I don't think of the world as a negative place any more. I just have so much love. And, through my love for them, I've been reborn into a better, more understanding, more patient person – I feel like an adult."